Participate Instead of Dominate

We are learning to surrender—not as defeat, but as the only honest response to reality. We are not in control, and we never were. When we accept this, something within us relaxes. We no longer have to force outcomes or manipulate life. We begin to trust that something deeper is holding us. The desire to steer everything fades, replaced by a quiet confidence that life unfolds as it should. This doesn’t mean passivity or indifference; it means we act without needing to control. In surrender, we participate instead of dominate. We let go of needing things to go our way. We start to live from union rather than ego. Every time we surrender to love, we have also just chosen to die. And in that surrender, we are changed.

May we surrender to love with
the courage to die to ourselves,
trusting that in this letting go,
we are made whole.

(inspired by Richard Rohr, Adam’s Return; Immortal Diamond; Wondrous Encounters)